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Teaching Consent & Bystander Intervention: Practical Roleplay Scenarios
Concrete classroom frameworks for FRIES consent principles, coercion identification, and peer intervention skills.
Target Audience: High school educators, university resident assistants, and youth mentors
Core Takeaways & Guidelines
- Teach the FRIES framework: Consent must be Freely given, Reversible, Informed, Enthusiastic, and Specific.
- Dismantle 'Silence = Yes': Absence of 'no' is not consent. Freezing or complying out of fear is not consent.
- Empower active bystanders using the 5 Ds: Direct, Distract, Delegate, Delay, and Document.
- Utilize non-sexual everyday boundary scenarios before transitioning into sexual intimacy discussions.
1. The FRIES Framework Breakdown
Developed by Planned Parenthood and widely adopted in secondary and collegiate curricula, the FRIES model provides students with concrete evaluation metrics.
- • Freely Given: Made without peer pressure, financial manipulation, guilt-tripping, or intoxication.
- • Reversible: Anyone can change their mind at any second, even in the middle of sexual activity.
- • Informed: Knowing if protection is being used and honest disclosure of risks.
- • Enthusiastic: Looking for genuine excitement and mutual desire, not reluctant compliance.
- • Specific: Saying yes to kissing is not an agreement to touching or intercourse.
2. The 5 Ds of Bystander Intervention
Equipping young people to step in when they observe predatory or coercive behavior among peers saves lives.
- • Direct: Speak up directly to the person crossing boundaries: 'Hey, leave them alone, they said no.'
- • Distract: Diffuse tension without confrontation: 'Hey, I lost my keys, can you help me find them outside?'
- • Delegate: Alert a designated authority, security guard, teacher, or friend group.
- • Delay: Check in with the affected person afterward: 'Are you okay? Can I help you get home safely?'
- • Document: Keep an accurate written record or recording if it is safe to do so.
Scientific & Clinical References
- • Planned Parenthood Federation of America. Sexual Consent and FRIES Framework. 2021.
- • Right To Be (formerly Hollaback!). 5 Ds of Bystander Intervention Methodology. 2022.
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